Comments on: Losing a Loved One

By: Shaunette Mom Of Kurtis

Shaunette Mom Of Kurtis — Mon, 27 Dec 2010 06:10:42 +0000

On Aug 3 2010, the birthday of my little girl turning three, I woke up and went to wake up my 18 year old son. I found him hanging in his room. He has been dead they say for 8 hours or so. Shortly after I went to bed. I have no note, and I must have been blind to his serious depression problem. My son would always where long clothing, I never thought any thing of it until I saw my sons medical report and it cleary showed old cutting scares all over his arms and legs. He had them for awhile, I never noticed. I wish I Did. My loss is a wake up call for raising my little girl. R.I.P. Kurtis Lee Murphy 3/9/92-8/3/2010..May the Lord be with my son giving him the comfort he was crying for!

By: Sarah Lanham

Sarah Lanham — Wed, 13 Oct 2010 02:21:06 +0000

The anniversary of my Dad’s death is coming on Oct. 26th of last year, on Nov. 4th 2 years ago my brother had a terrible accident being 50 ft in the air in a bucket truck painting a church, the truck turned over, slamming him to the concrete below….he fell into the prayer garden. He lived until Nov. 7th when we had to take him off life support. He left behind one grandchild, a 19 y/o daughter, and a 17 y/o son. On Oct. 28th it will be the 31st anniversary of my Mothers tragic ending….she shot herself in the head with a 22pistol, with hollow points bullets…she lived for about 2 hours, but she was brain dead. I know God has his reasons for everything that happens. He is my peace when I grieve, but the ache remains forever. Who am I to question why? He knows what’s best for each of us. I could not make it without him.

By: Elba Lopez

Elba Lopez — Sun, 10 Oct 2010 14:52:18 +0000

wow I can surely relate to losing A loved one .This sister wendy who dreams with her son i had that experience with a nephew.The lord showed me it was time for him to sleep.Maybe the Lord is telling you wendy, he’s (your son) where he needs to be happy with the rest of his Christian family young and old waiting for the next life.Peace in your heart sister

By: Noemi Tabora

Noemi Tabora — Sun, 10 Oct 2010 05:24:59 +0000

I lost my dad 2 years ago and the experience left me paralyzed. It was the loneliest moment of my life. My dad was my hero, my anchor of strength and his words of wisdom made me cool and easy. I went to the point of asking WHY should dealth be the wages for our sins. It’s just so sad and lonely to lose a loved one. I cry each time I pass by the parlour where he used to have his haircut, each time I see his favorite cherries etc. But I have to accept that as mortal, no one expects to live forever…

By: David

David — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 02:15:30 +0000

I’ve experienced the “losses” of all my grandparents, my parents and 2 sisters most of my uncles and half my aunts. I think its a growing experience with each “loss”. I believe that with each “loss” we have a tendency to hold on harder to the ones that we have left and with each passing of another loved one it becomes even harder on our hearts. I believe two things happen. Our hearts will become hardened due to a fear of Love. I was afraid to love someone because of the fear of “losing them one day”. I soon distanced myself from everyone after my Father died. He died 1 day before my 16th birthday and and I couldn’t help but think that in, what I thought was, the most important time of my life that God would take him from me. I accepted Christ as my savior at 12 so I was young in my Faith. I prayed so many times asking the Lord WHY??? Till finally my Faith in God diminished. It slowly faded each time that I “lost” another loved one. It practically was totally gone but the hurt was still there. 25 years later I caught my wife, of 13 years, having an affair. It devastated me! I totally dedicated my life to her and my 3 children. I thought there was no reason to go on and sometime after that I sat in my garage drunk contemplating suicide. I placed a 44 caliber pistol in my mouth and was about to pull the trigger when God decided it was to send me an Angel. I friend walked in the door and I was like a deer in the headlights. She knew of my past and my feelings. In that she said a lot of things but 1 thing stuck out above all. She knew of the terrible pain I suffered with my Father’s life. And she told me I was about to inflict it upon my children. Thats all I really heard from then on because at that time it was like a bright light shining and the answers to my prayers running through my head. I believe God took my father when he did because he knows everything and one of those things was this night and what I was about to do. He opened my eyes and of all the prayers I prayed, this was truly the only one I really needed an answer for. He couldnt have answered that for me when I was 16. I didnt have that love at the time for a wife and children so I wouldnt have understood. The pain from “losing” my father is all I knew and I knew I didnt want my children to suffer as I have. James 1:3-4 says “3 Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience. 4 But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.”(KJV) Since then my love for God continues to grow and the answers to my pass and present prayers are slowly being answered. Ive learned to be patient with God. I believe that all our prayers will be answered. Maybe not at this exact moment or maybe not in the way that we want, but it will be answered according to God’s will. Just be patient and steadfast in your Faith. God will comfort us in our time of needs. When you “lose” a loved one, know that,if they are saved, they are with God. Comfort also comes to me now because I know one day we will be reunited in the presence of God. We are not promised tomorrow so be thankful for every day we have. Make the most of it and be good stewards for God.

By: Shelley

Shelley — Wed, 22 Sep 2010 18:46:16 +0000

My brother passed of bladder cancer 3 wks. ago. It was only him & me ( his sister )
He refused conventional cancer treatments & only took Motrins & Tylenols. I took him his groceries, & necessities and was with him to the end, sitting next to him when he took his last breath. It’s great to love someone “deeply” but with that the loss is so difficult. We were great friends & I was his caregiver the last months. Going thru the difficult stages of grieving is tough… I’m visiting a friend in beautiful Oceanside, Ca. & I can barely get out of bed. ( tho thank God for this wonderful friend, who places no demands on me while I grieve ) I just found this website & think it’s great. God bless all of you who share in this “journey” of grief.
With God I do know that “All Things Are Possible” & that, “This Too Shall Pass.”

By: Tyra

Tyra — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 20:45:17 +0000

I like all of you have loss my mother, who is my best friend, who loved me unconditionally. I hope someday I will find someone who walks the face of the earth that I can love as much for I don’t have any children for I have never been married yet because it is hard to find a man who will give me the one thing that I need the most. I am 40 now and as time goes by so fast I just look forward to the day when I will be with God, with Jesus, and with my mom and my dad. I just look forward to the day I will have peace.

By: Candi Gard

Candi Gard — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 23:40:21 +0000

@ Donna, II Corinthians 5:1-8 states we are given brand new bodies made by the hands of God himself. I believe our spirit/soul goes directly to Heaven. Which is where my husband is. The Jehovah Witnesses believe that when we die we are nothing (sleep like) until judgement day… then earth will be Heaven. I’m a Presbyterian USA and I disagree with that wholeheartedly. Why else would He “wipe away all their tears”.

By: DonnaTaylor

DonnaTaylor — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 12:40:40 +0000

I have a question is it true that no-body goes to heaven or below till judgement day . So if that is true where does the spirit go after they pass >> and when is judgement day

By: DonnaTaylor

DonnaTaylor — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 22:24:10 +0000

My husband passed away almost two months ago from Cancer . 31 yrs together I am lost , I cant find peace . I havent gone to church since I was a kid . This past sunday I went . I am trying to find the right place for me so I am going to different churches . I will know when I hear the right words . I have a need in me since his passing to go to church . So I pray through this and god I will find peace and exceptence of his passing so I can move forward.