Comments on: Choosing Forgiveness

By: PRAO

PRAO — Wed, 29 Jun 2011 03:16:59 +0000

I have been living in a malfunctional family since I was little girl as I am deaf and the family I grow up living with them mistreated me for a long time and I got out to college I felt so much better staying away from them and when I got home on a holiday month like Christmas I got mistreated again.. I got frustrated and then when I graduated from college, I lived in Denver Colorado and got married as I thought it will go away with my memories but NO…. I got verbal abused by my husband for long time and he did physical abuse my son when he was little boy due to his drinking habit…I went thru drinking problem too because he was persuaded me to join with him and get drunk…finally I divorced him and move back to my old state where I grew up…When I came to visit my family they always start to argue and I got blew up and get tired of it…Recently on Mother’s Day, my oldest sisters tried to take over mother’s place because she is old and couldn’t argue with me so the sisters took her place and control me and I blew up and told them to back off… and told my mom how I felt that I really want to have the family show loving, caring and support family, not argue. My mom said she understand and I don’t know if she does.. Now I haven’t seen them since that because I HATE arguing…I noticed that they expected me to apologize them all the time while they don’t because they are older and don’t need to apologize me at all..So I know one of the verses in the Bible do said that we should sit down and discuss and solve problem and apologize each other. Is that right??? If so, do you know the verses to look for??? Thanks and you have a good evening…God bless…

By: Janet

Janet — Sun, 21 Nov 2010 13:25:44 +0000

I too have been deeply hurt to my soul by my soon to be ex husband. We were married for 28 years and 17 years of that time he says he was miserable and unhappy but still chose to live life as if everything was great or bearable I should say. All the while we (I thought) were building our life. Raised 2 sons and when our nest was empty I found out he had been cheating for years. I thought and still believe he was a good christian man but the woman he is with is evil and thus creating evil in his life and blinding him to what is right in the eyes of God (lust). They both adamantly deny that they have a relationship but all sightings of them together say otherwise. I will never, ever be convinced that they do not have a relationship as he admitted to me that he had feelings for her. I constantly struggle with the hurt, anger, hatred, evil thoughts, etc. that this has brought into my life and while I am a born again christian, I feel I am the farthest away from God that I have ever been. I desire your prayers for healing and strength to forgive as I cannot begin to fathom this yet but I know God is in control and I will overcome this!

By: ROBIN

ROBIN — Sat, 13 Nov 2010 04:20:32 +0000

this was very helpful to me i was married in 1986 and then divorced in 1995 ive been living in alot of pain because i couldnt let go of my ex and move on with my life because of the pain he put me though with being unfaithful for several year in our marriage and then having a baby with another girl that baby was born 6 months after our first born then had a 2nd baby with him i fought to keep my husband for 5 years til he meet another women that was married she divorced her husband to be with my husband we finally got a divorce in 1995 separated in 1994 i still miss him and still trying to move on in a new relationship ive been in for the last 9 years i cant forgive and its destroying my life i fill dead inside and never happy i want to let go but how i go to church sometimes at 1st assembly of god and i pray sometimes thank you this is very helpful and so true

By: Suzanne

Suzanne — Wed, 03 Nov 2010 14:09:09 +0000

I have hurt people and people has hurt me. All we can do is ask for forgiveness and pray that God will take care of it. We are human and yes its hard to forget but it will come when God sees that it will come to his glory. God is a merciful and loving God. I have a cousin that doesn to want to have anything to do with our side of the family or (I think it was me thats she is mad at cause I wasnt there when our grandmother passed and I told her it was out of my hands when she passed. If she only knew why I wasnt there but I dont want to point fingers because I have already forgiven the people that has done me wrong when she passed because they didnt tell me or look me up when she passed. Because there was friction between them and me so they didnt tell me. But I pray everyday that she would seek God in her decision. God said ” What is bound here on earth is bound in heaven.” I love God and all we can do is pray for one another and love them because God loves us

By: Caroline

Caroline — Fri, 08 Oct 2010 16:24:44 +0000

Nice Article. I have been goin’ thro’ alot lately. A close friend went silent. I have no idea wot is causing the rift. She’s cut all communication en does note pick or return my calls/sms. I have tried seeking clarity from her on what might have gone wrong but she won’t say anything. I feel so hurt that she’s not open to me. Should i forgive her en move on without knowing what i did wrong to cause the drift?

By: janisjo

janisjo — Thu, 07 Oct 2010 22:38:40 +0000

Forgiveness is an awesome thing to do for yourself! Great healing for the heart, body, and mind. True forgiveness takes a lot of work, but is a lesson well worth learning. I must say, some hurts are harder to overcome and find forgiveness for than others. With God, all things are possible. I read a great book when I was dealing with a lot of hurt from several people. It helped me to understand forgiveness, and the importance of it. The book is title “Love” by Leo Buscaglia, full of powerful words and wisdom. I recommend anyone dealing with hurt, and forgiveness seems to be an impossible task, read this book. And always remember to pray, pray, pray. God always hears us, and never leaves us…….

By: T cox

T cox — Thu, 07 Oct 2010 14:15:43 +0000

a hard pill to swallow sometimes, but great advice…thank you Elmer for writing bold and truthful advice! Now if I can be so bold to follow it and be free from some hurts (unforgiveness) in my life…God, please give me the strength I need to make my amends.

By: Judi

Judi — Thu, 07 Oct 2010 12:20:21 +0000

This is a very good write. I enjoyed it. The real trick now is HOW to forgive. I hope that is the next thing you write.

By: Doug Webster

Doug Webster — Thu, 07 Oct 2010 03:24:36 +0000

I have found that forgiveness is not an option. God says we must forgive if we want to be forgiven. This is in the scriptures and when I did forgive I really didnt want to but it was right with God. I did and still do feel free from this hurtful situation, but the enemy tries all the time to sneak back in there and stir things up. Its up to us to deal with him and remind him that God has taken care of that problem and to hit the bricks and leave us alone. Ephesians 6 says to put on the full armor of God and the enemy cant touch us with his burning arrows. Now i can laugh at him when he tries to sneak back in, and tell him to go in jesus name. It really works. D.Webster.

By: Aurora

Aurora — Thu, 07 Oct 2010 02:03:51 +0000

I have been hurt so many times by my children. But I have learned to forgive. Only this past year one of my grown children had delivered a baby, and not only that but had to undergo surgery for bowel obstruction. In the past year I have been helping her with the baby, which is my grand-daughter. And now that she is one year young, she yells at me, she is abusive at times to me and not only that but yells at her daughter, which in turn hurts me to see the little one shake from fear when her mother does that. I too have told her she needs to leave my home and find another place, and soon. I can not take her making me feel oppresive and always wanting me to stay in my room. I have told her while I am paying the bills I am in charge. But deep down the little one tugs at the strings of my heart. I have asked for forgiveness for my bad example as a mother not being there for her at times, but I need to remind myself I can help her if I have the time, and when it is possible. Thank you so much for the article that you wrote.